Who's next?

Hopefully Jessa and Jana will be the next to Marry. I feel sorry for Jana, the forgotten Duggar, because she isn't doing much to get noticed. I read an article that listed the Duggar children except Jana was excluded. She's the second born Duggar, the first daughter but her life took a back seat to the others while she was raising and educating her younger siblings. Once the eldest four daughters get married more responsibility will fall on Joy-Anna unless Jana ends up a spinster or no suitable spouse comes forward that meets the parent's approval to allow Jana to have her own family. But that would also make Michelle step up and be a parent. So poor Jana might be destined to be her siblings caregiver.

This is my last Duggar post until the next engagement.

Duggar Lifestyle ♡♥ my opinion

After reading numerous pages I am surprised my opinion about the family is not unusual. It almost seems Cult Like, and in another way it gives people hope in a world turned to shit. Ironically technology has made the world smaller and us all neighbors but it also put evil in our own backyards waiting for a door left cracked open to slip in. If this technology was available 30 years ago would we have got hope from the Branch Davidians? The Duggar family use technology but at the same time don't embrace it. The children have the internet for school work but any activities online is very monitored but I can't blame the family for that with pedophiles looking for naive targets the Duggar children would be at risk.Text messages are monitored. Watching television doesn't happen and if it does the parents control what is seen. I've never really noticed a TV in their Arkansas home but Josh has a large TV in DC, I seriously doubt it's allowed to collect dust.

The family embraced technology when Josie was born because of monitors and other equipment she is alive today. They don't embrace science but without trained Physicians and nurses Josie wouldn't be here. Millions prayed for her but in reality science saved her. It is my hope that some of the children will attend an outside college and learn about science and how they can still be devout Christians without rejecting the unknown. The curriculum the children were taught had very little emphasis on Science. To me science would of opened up better career options for the children. The girls were taught from a young age to be wives and mothers, to serve God and their husbands.  Their full potential may never be realized because they are being taught to be subservient to their husbands . In a perfect world we would all be stay at home wives and mothers. I've been married 23 years and worked outside of the home 14 years plus 4 years of college. I would have very little say so on important issues.

As harsh as my opinion was about the Duggar family they have the same BIBLE I do. They choose to adhere to the biblical teachings through a slightly different interpretation than what I learned and they choose to associate with like minded individuals. The Duggar family do visit areas that have a lot of poverty but at home they only invite like minded individuals. Why? I have noticed the girls are using cosmetics more and their clothing seems more modern, skirts shorter. Their clothes seem more fitted, hair and makeup less dowdy looking. I thought vanity was a sin but the girls are trying to appear more attractive to members of the opposite sex.

So many of the children are old enough for courting. Perhaps that is the reason for changing their personal appearances. It's fascinating knowing the girls experience some of the same problems girls experience in the real world even though they have spent less time in society and didn't have the same pressure for perfection or trying to fit in. The media plays a big part in how we see beauty but the Duggar girls didn't have that perception.

Courting is dating with a purpose and saving the physical aspect of the courtship for marriage. Each one of their firsts are for their husband and their husband only. I agree with a getting to know a potential spouse before marriage and sex. I am sure the divorce rate would be greatly reduced if not non existent. Growing up in the 80s girls were pressured into getting in relationships by middle school and had sex during high school. I am no exception. I wish I would of waited. Even today teens not in relationships are called gay so many get into relationships to avoid that stigma.

Living life Duggar Style Part 4

After a few more of the children get married I expect to see big changes in the Duggar household. Michelle will lose a few of the BiBs (built in babysitters) so she will be forced to actually participate in the younger children's lives. Time to step up and be a parent Michelle. I'm sure she's more involved with the children's lives and not what's depicted on the television, I hope she is anyways. I'm sure she's a good mom but as a viewer that's something I've yet to see.

My hopes for the other children is for them to have the opportunity to spend time outside of the home without a chaperone or parent closeby watching. Experiencing the real world will not make them less Christian. It might give them opportunities to make choices on their own and sometimes they might make mistakes but how they deal with making mistakes is what really matters. Learning to make choices on their own and accepting the consequences of making a mistake will better prepare them for the real world.

My own Mom was brought up in a large family similar to the Duggars, my grandfather was a Wesleyan minister. I am sure it was difficult for my grandparents to allow my mom to attend college 200 miles away but they trusted my mom to make her own decisions . I was brought up attending church 2-3 times a week so I'm not some heathen questioning their parenting style. My parents allowed us to make our own decisions as long as we accepted the consequences because if we were raised right bad choices were few & far between but they did happen occassionly. Nobody is perfect and we all sin differently. How we learn from our mistakes is what makes us human.

Living Life Duggar Style part 3

My hope for Jill and Derick's marriage is a love that continues to grow as the union strengthens. Since Jill's world has been small and protected, I hope she experiences everything she has been denied. That she experiences the beauty of life and learns to appreciate the smaller things  or less important things in life . Because the smaller, insignificant things might have been what really mattered after all.

I hope her family size isn't as extreme as her parents so she can really know her children without expecting the older kids to take care of the young kids. The Duggars might disagree but Michelle missed out on so much of her own children's development because she taught the older kids to be BiB (built in babysitter). Sure the Duggar kids are more self sufficient but they weren't allowed to enjoy their own childhoods either. The boys had it easier than the girls which allowed them time to be kids longer.

  Most likely some of the children will be born overseas, wherever they choose to settle. Because
Jill wants to help people but to truly help she must know how others live. Not just visit a community and leave but live amongst other cultures to see what would help them the most.

Living Life Duggar Style Part 2

I can't imagine being in a relationship that every aspect was monitored and chaperoned. Jill was introduced to Derick by her dad. They began to text and Skype with every word being scrutinized by her parents. They decided to court again the budding relationship was monitored allowing a side hug at the beginning and end of each visit. Derick and Jill weren't allowed to go anywhere without a chaperone. They got engaged and progressed from side hug to hand holding. In two days Jill & Derick will experience their " first kiss" when the MINISTER pronounces them Husband and Wife.

After the wedding and reception, Jill will experience physical love with Derick . I do believe her marriage will last because they truly do care for eachother and religion teaches us DIVORCE is WRONG. Even though I think Jill's marriage will be loving some of the others might find themselves with a domineering spouse because they are taught the patriarch of the family is always right. Will some of the girls end up living in a house where Domestic Violence is common and choose to stay in the marriage because DIVORCE IS WRONG? I know people who spent years dating and eventually marry but end up divorced because they seen a side to that person they have never known. Jill will soon learn sex is a small part of marriage and hopefully she will enjoy that part without considering it a duty as  Michelle does. Michelle thinks It's natural for a woman to submit when her husband is in the mood regardless of how trying her own day was. Making love can be enjoyable and a beautiful experience. It should never be looked at as a chore. The marital bond is established and passion between the couple should be more than trying to create a new life.

It's kind of ironic early in the show the Duggar family was compared to the Waltons. The Walton kids did date and marry . They experienced the good & the bad of life. They Duggar kids have only known the good and was told about the evil of the world. Their experiences have been limited.

Living Life Duggar Style

It seems almost surreal the fourth child of Mr & Mrs Baby Maker ( Jim Bob)  Duggar will be walking down the aisle for her own uterus festival very soon. Jill and Derick will tie that knot to begin their own family together. Like her own parents, Jill is very much in love and is allowing God to decide how many children they will have.

Although I agree with that belief and many of the family's ethics, I do believe Jill is going into a world unprepared. A world that she wasn't allowed to participate in without supervision. Or even allowed to witness from the sidelines. A world that goes against everything she's been taught.

Honestly the children have been sheltered from the time of their births. They have traveled the world with their family but never explored their own town without a chaperone. Jill was never allowed to go to a movie with friends, attend school, hang out at a mall, dance or a lot of other things we take for granted. Swimming in a private pool required modesty wear, imagine trying to cool off in a pool and you are covered up. The simplest things that make us human because we were allowed to make mistakes and we LEARNED, the Duggar children never experienced.

Her life was lived surrounded by family and never allowed to be her own person. Michelle's  own childhood was quite different than the one forced on the children. Michelle was allowed to dress the way she wanted to dress. She attended school, ballgames and was a cheerleader. She got to participate in life!

She chose to start learning about religion.

She chose to work a part time job.

She chose to Date Jim-Bob. They didn't COURT, Jim-Bob and Michelle DATED. They hugged, kissed and held hands before the wedding. The physical contact before marriage apparently didn't ruin their relationship.

She chose to quit cheerleading.

Michelle had a CHOICE. In a way the Duggar family is similar to a CULT since every aspect of the children's life is controlled. I applaud a couple of the kids who CHOSE to do their own thing, off the camera. People condemn Scientology for controlling their members but we turn a blind eye to what we witness on TLC with the Duggars.

Being the 4th oldest child, Jill learned to be a MOM because she was a BiB ( built in babysitter). She learned to clean her jurisdiction and encouraged her "buddy" to do their chores. She learned to cook for a large family. She learned to teach her younger siblings when she was homeschooled herself.

Three years ago Jill blogged wanting to be a NURSE but she became a midwife instead. Why?

My theory is Nursing school is normally not done at home and requires a knowledge of SCIENCE. The homeschool curriculum the Duggar family uses has very little SCIENCE since the main emphasis is on religion. Jill would of had to learn things that went against what she has been told her whole life. She may of understood the world better and the real miracles medical professionals preform everyday.

I do commend the Duggar family homeschooling their children though but feel they should of encouraged outside activities also like 4H, Girl Scouts, sports and Boy Scouts to allow them to experience life outside of the house. Their views of the world is very one-sided because allowing them to see other point of views might have derailed their teachings. If their beliefs are truly strong it should not matter where they live or who they associate with!!!

Most of the Duggar children want to help the less fortunate but how can they help someone else in a world they don't understand themselves?

Too young for this bulls~~~

My younger cousin on Dad' s side is fighting Acute Renal Failure because of  MEDICAL MALPRACTICE. Her ordeal began 3 weeks ago when she sought out help because she had a sore toe. Like me she has Type 2 Diabetes Mellitus and like me doesn't have health insurance. The ER Dr admited her for the toe to be amputated the following morning. The next morning the surgeon decided to not amputate the toe but put her on antibiotics that would fight the infection aggressively. This was the first mistake because Faith started getting sick and having severe stomache problems. Less than 3 days after being put on the aggressive antibiotics the medication was changed and a biopsy indicated her kidneys shut down. The next day she started DIALYSIS. She has had 5-6 rounds of Dialysis, 2 biopsies that indicates the kidneys are no longer functional and in the next couple days is being moved to a NURSING HOME. She is 36.

She can spend as little as 2 weeks in the Nursing Home or months. I'm worried sick because she's too young to be going through this. It almost feels surreal a few weeks ago she was healthy but now this bullsh*t.

The bad thing is if she tries to go home medicaid will no longer pay for her dialysis and she will die. So she is essentially a prisoner in a hospital bed with no rights to decide how to live her own life  anymore or even where she will live.Dialysis is keeping her alive I realize that but it seems so unfair.

Myelogram

Oh my goodness I barely survived the myelogram but it's over. Thank God It's over.

My week started off spending time in the clinic getting four tubes of blood drawn for my admission to the hospital on Wednesday. Tuesday morning I spent time talking to the ambulatory surgery receptionist discussing past medical history and the upcoming admission. Tuesday afternoon the radiology department called to discuss the procedure details and what I could expect. I had previously researched the procedure so I would be prepared. I was asked not to take metformin the morning of the myelogram and not to take it for 48 hours after the procedure because of the risk of renal failure. The radiographic medium dye and the metformin could cause devastation if mixed on the kidneys. I obliged .

Wednesday morning I woke up a few hours earlier than I needed to , to mentally prepare myself. I showered, brushed teeth and downed a bottle of cold spring water. I wasn't supposed to drink anything after midnight but since I would not be sedated ,what the hell. (With diabetes I have perpetual cotton mouth). After being admitted in ambulatory surgery a urine test was done to check for possible pregnancy and more blood drawn to make sure it wasn't too thin. Once the last blood was drawn I was taken to xrays where an xray technician & the radiologist explained the procedure. I was transferred to the xray table, the Dr marked the areas she would be injecting Lidocaine and where the needle will be guided in to inject the dye. My back was bathed in iodine.

The Dr was going to use a fluroscope to guide the needle in. The first injection of lidocaine hit a vertebrae and by the second injection I was in tears. The third lidocaine shot & myelogram was painless. Once the dye was injected several xrays were done the pain came back with a vengeance before I made it to ct scan.   After the procedure I was in recovery for 4.5 hours with my head slightly elevated . I was ordered to take it easy for 2 days to prevent any complications such as headaches or bleeding. Hopefully I will know the results of the procedure soon.

Nervous & Scared

Last Thursday afternoon I got the " call" that said the Myelogram has been approved . The receptionist asked if she could put me on hold to contact the hospital to set up the appointment, I was thinking to myself a major diagnostic procedure could take 2-3 weeks to get an appointment. So I was surprised when it was scheduled  for 8:00 a.m. on June 11th, three days from today. I have to go in for blood test tomorrow and as long as they feel my WBC are in a normal range plus don't have a possiblity of bleeding the myelogram will happen.  I'm scared but since I have a medical background I researched the procedure because I want to know exactly what will occur. I went into an EMG clueless years ago and although not entirely uncomfortable it was upsetting not knowing. I have watched medical procedures on others and oddly enough myself without squirming. Researching procedures is something that eases my fears because I can do a mental checklist ( if not sedated) and apply a checkmark after each step is completed.

The receptionist and I discussed my medication to insure none would cause unusual bleeding. She was surprised how upbeat I was. The procedure needs done and upsetting myself won't change that but the closer I get the more worried I am about the procedure because the bad reaction I had to anesthesia during my operation. Don't get me wrong if they decide to knock me out I won't have any problem with that since  a needle will be shoved into my spinal cord. Before MRI this procedure was preformed a lot but because of the metal in me I'm forced to have the more invasive procedure. Oh Well.